I'm not going to have sex with my other partner for the next month or so
Dedeker: Sometimes it's not always obvious upfront. I think when people make agreements with partners that they end up not being able to keep, often it's not a very obvious thing in the front of their brain right away of, "Oh, this isn't something I can do, and so I'm just going to lie and say that I can." I think for some people it is, but for many people, I think they do feel positive, like, "Oh yes, I can agree to that. I can totally agree with that. That makes sense."
Lori Beth Bisbey says that in non-monogamous relationships, cheating is less about the activity, and more about violating the trust you've built up in your relationship
Dedeker: Yes. Then they're actually in the situation like, "Oh gosh, well actually I probably shouldn't have agreed to that. That's really hard for me to maintain. Maybe it'll be easier for me to just break that agreement, but not be honest about it." I could see that also being a situation.
Jase: We're going to go on in the second half to talk about what cheating looks like in non-monogamous relationships in a little more depth and look at some input from other people including our Patreons. Before we go to that, we're going to take a quick break to talk about our sponsors for this show.
